I’m about to get real with y’all.
I am 27 and single and the milestone that is marriage is so far away I feel like I can barely see it. Like I should start adopting cats now and just get the “cat lady” process started.
The majority of my current friends are married, engaged, or in serious relationships. Many of them have started settling down, buying homes, planning for kids, generally getting their lives together and becoming “responsible adults.”
The other day I was feeling incredibly lonely because I am nowhere near being in that place.
And the worst part is that I feel shame that I care. I feel bad that I want a spouse, that I want a companion at all. Shouldn’t I be content to be single? Aren’t there better “more Christian” desires and dreams that I should have? Wanting to be married seems like such an unimportant dream compared to reaching the nations with the gospel or pursing my dream career.
I drove around in my car crying and pouring out my thoughts and complaints to God. When I got home I listened to an old sermon by Matt Chandler, the pastor at the Village Church, and he provided such encouragement for people who are single.
Instead of trying to describe it I’ll let you listen to it.
There is nothing bad or sinful about wanting a husband. It was the way we were designed. But thats not where we should leave it. Like Matt said we shouldn’t to wait around “content” so that God will give us a spouse. We are called to keep falling in love with the Lord and making disciples from those around us.
God doesn’t want me to wait until I have a husband in order to pursue what He has for me.
He has given us passions and dreams and callings and you don’t need a spouse in order to start pursuing them. All we can do is continue to say “yes” to what God is calling us to. We should continue to say “yes” to where He wants us to go and trust that He will provide for me in His time. Because when our gaze is fixed on God everything else seems to fall into place.
